Q.I have a question that i need answering before i can get married.
Do I need to be christened to get married in a church. If so does
it matter how long i have been christened. And do you know how
i would go about it.
I would really appreciate if you have the answers to these questions.
Thank you ever so much.
A1.Most churches only require one person
in the couple to hold a baptism certificate but this can vary
from church to church so it's best to check with the person who
will be officiating.
The first step to getting yourself christened
is to discuss your intentions with the leader of your local church,
they will be able to advise you on the ins and outs of this process
and the timescales involved. I'm not aware of any restrictions
governing the amount of time you need to hold the certificate
prior to your wedding but again, do please check the 'rules' at
the church where you intend to marry to be absolutely sure you're
going to comply with their wishes. Good luck!
(Answered by Tamryn Kirby)
A2. Assuming it is a CofE church, then
it is up to the discretion of the local vicar. Usually, though,
if you are a member of that parish (or your fiance
is) it would be very unusual for you to be refused. If you do
want to be christened (but remember it is not a thing to be taken
lightly and implies a committment to the church that you might
not be ready for) then go and have a chat with your local vicar
who will explain the process to you.
(Answered by Helen Hitchcock)
A3. It
is not neccessary to get christened before you marry in a church.
The majority of Ministers are quite happy to marry people who
have not been christened. It would however, be wise to discuss
this with your local minister prior to the wedding just to be
sure of his feelings on this
matter. If you did decide that you would like to go ahead and
get christened anyway, then phone your local minister and arrange
to have an
informal talk about what would be involved.
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)
A4. Most
ministers would prefer if you were christened before marrying
you, especially the older ones. It doesn't matter how long you
have been christened, the important fact for them is that you
have been blessed in a House of God and you have become part of
their faith. If you have chosen the church you wish to get married
in I suggest you meet with the minister and explain to him your
circumstances, I am sure he will be more than happy to oblige.
This will also give you and your partner a chance to get to know
them before your special day. My grandfather was christened when
he was 79 years old we were all there it was a lovely occasion.
(Answered by MrsS)
A5. A
lot of that depends on the church you are to be married in. Your
best bet would be to contact the priest, preacher, vicar, etc.
of the church, he would also be the one to tell you how to go
about getting it done. Here in the United States, one does not
have to be baptised or christianed to be married in a church,
but the pastor will do a brief interview with the couple to be
sure they understand and accept, God, Jesus and the role they
play in the ceremony and married life. Here if you are a member
of the church you do not have to pay a fee for the use of the
church or reception buildings/rooms. The fee of the minister is
a donation to members, and a set fee to non-members. Non-members
also have to rent the church and facilities. Hope this helps,
have a wonderful wedding and if I can be of help, drop me a line.
(Answered by Brenda Hibbs)