Is once enough?
Do I
as the asunt have any specific role in the wedding. Anything
I am suppose to do?
Also, If anyone gives a gift at the wedding shower are they
to give a wedding gift as well? I have been told that if you
give a gift at the shower you don't need to buy a wedding gift?.
A1.
Wedding showers are increasing in their popularity and
are a fun, frivolous aspect of the build-up to the wedding.
As far as substituting a gift at the shower for a wedding present
goes, I think this is a personal decision and fine as long as
the shower is not too far ahead of the wedding and the bride
and groom know you gave it. However, you could always give a
token gift at the shower and save the main wedding gift for
the wedding day itself. This is one that is down to personal
choice and whether it fits in with the theme of the wedding
itself, whether it is a more contemporary, modern or laid back
affair as compared to a traditional, formal wedding which would
require a more traditional approach.
(Answered
by Siobhan Barron)
A2. Unless you have
been asked specifically to do something for the wedding there
is no set role for you to do, you get to relax and enjoy their
special day. If you feel you would like to help out have a chat
with your niece or nephew, I am sure they will tell you what
they need help with.
The gift for the wedding shower is your wedding gift, there
is no need to buy another gift.
(Answered
by Mrs S)
A3. Aunts
don’t have any traditional roles to play in the wedding.
However, as a close family member, you may be called on to perform
some tasks to help with the day – either ‘behind
the scenes’ work or something more visible such as giving
a reading or making a toast. With regarding to the gifts, it’s
my understanding that the shower and the wedding are totally
separate. Gifts given at the shower are usually personal gifts
for the bride to be while gifts given at the wedding are often
more practical gifts that the couple have specifically requested.
However, as gift customs do differ so much, it might be wise
to check with someone else in the main wedding party as to the
etiquette. Best wishes.
(Answered by Tamryn Kirby)
