Q. Do I as the asunt have any specific role in the wedding. Anything I am suppose to do?
Also, If ;anyone gives a gift at the wedding shower are they to give a wedding gift as well? I have been told that if you give a gift at the shower you don't need to buy a wedding gift.?

A1. Wedding showers are increasing in their popularity and are a fun, frivolous aspect of the build-up to the wedding.

As far as substituting a gift at the shower for a wedding present goes, I think this is a personal decision and fine as long as the shower is not too far ahead of the wedding and the bride and groom know you gave it. However, you could always give a token gift at the shower and save the main wedding gift for the wedding day itself. This is one that is down to personal choice and whether it fits in with the theme of the wedding itself, whether it is a more contemporary, modern or laid back affair as compared to a traditional, formal wedding which would require a more traditional approach.
(Answered by Siobhan Barron)

A2. Unless you have been asked specifically to do something for the wedding there is no set role for you to do, you get to relax and enjoy their special day. If you feel you would like to help out have a chat with your niece or nephew, I am sure they will tell you what they need help with.

The gift for the wedding shower is your wedding gift, there is no need to buy another gift.

(Answered by Mrs S)

A3. Aunts don’t have any traditional roles to play in the wedding. However, as a close family member, you may be called on to perform some tasks to help with the day – either ‘behind the scenes’ work or something more visible such as giving a reading or making a toast. With regarding to the gifts, it’s my understanding that the shower and the wedding are totally separate. Gifts given at the shower are usually personal gifts for the bride to be while gifts given at the wedding are often more practical gifts that the couple have specifically requested. However, as gift customs do differ so much, it might be wise to check with someone else in the main wedding party as to the etiquette. Best wishes.
(Answered by Tamryn Kirby)