I hate the idea of sending a gift list out with invitations but realise its the best thing to do. Do I have to send the list out with the evening invitations as well as the actual wedding invites?

A1. Some couples choose only to send the gift list out to the people who are invited to the day and this is perfectly normal. If you omit the gift list from the evening invitations then anyone who does want to buy you something will ask you anyawy so if you do not feel comfortable about putting the gift list in the evening invitations then I would leave them out.
(Answered by Pippa Miln)

A2. Normally you would send gift list information out with all invites including evening.

However another alternative is having a simple line on the invitations saying "should you wish to buy a gift for the bride & groom please contact our wedding planner (or designate someone from the wedding party) ".

Hope this helps
(Answered by Bernadette Chapman)

A3. If you don't want to send out gift list information with your invites, then don't! You could always send out gift list information to people once you know they are coming, but that doubles up the postage.

If you don't send gift list information, be prepared for enquiries asking for what you would like, or for guests not knowing what to get,not wanting to bother you, and you ending up with 3 toasters!

Again, with evening invites, if you want to give your guests some assistance should they want to give you a gift, then add the details. Most guests won't think you're being presumptuous, infact, they'll probably be glad of your guidance.
Very best wishes.
(Answered by Emma Pirie)

A4.Yes, you should send out the gift list with the evening invitations as even your evening guests will want to buy you a gift. The key is to make sure that you think about the varying budgets for your guests The secret of a successful gift list is to accommodate people who have a range of budgets to spend'
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)


A5. Something that has become very popular here in the states is adding a note that says "gift list avaliable upon request" that way those that want one can get it and those that don't, aren't felt pressured! best of luck.
(Answered by Brenda Hibbs)