I just wanted to know how do we approach the wedding gift list with our guests without sounding cheeky.

Also as my partner and i live together already and have most household things anyway, we would prefer to have money. Again how would we approach the subject without sounding cheeky.


There are a few suggestions on the best way to approach your wedding gift lists:

1. Put someone in charge of holding the list, e.g. the Brides Mother or a Wedding Co-ordinator. You could add a small note to the bottom of selected
invitations to indicate that she is the person to contact should they wish to purchase a gift.

2. Another idea, which worked out very well for one of my brides was to buy two small notepads. On each separate page of the notepads, the couple wrote down a gift, the price and where it could be purchased from (if this was known, - the gifts varied in size and price). The notepad started off with the Brides parents, once they had chosen what they would buy they ripped out that page and it was passed to the next guest until the notepads were empty.
This way the couple ended up with what they wanted, guests could pick an item to the value they wanted to spend and no-one bought the same present!!

If you would prefer money you can get round this in a number of ways:-

1. Place your list containing items/vouchers with a particular store or company that you purchase items from fairly often. Most stores provide cards with which you can enclose with invitations or hand out as guests enquire about what you would like as a present. Selfridges have a celebration account where guests can pledge money to your personal a/c. Once all pledges
have been made, you can spend the money in store as you wish.

2. Most guests will either ask you directly what you would like or will ask one of your close relatives. If you let your close relatives know that you would prefer cash, I'm sure they will pass this information on for you explaining that you already have your household items. If they ask you directly and you feel cheeky saying you would prefer money, you could ask these guests to purchase vouchers for a particular store of your choice.

(Answered by Sam Booth)