A1. This is a tricky situation but is it
worth spoiling the big day for both of you? If it is really
what your daughter wants then nothing would make her happier
than to know that she has you on her side. This is a very stressful
time for both of you but don't let this one thing be something
you quarrel about now or in the future. Every bride looks forward
to this day and has this chance to look exactly how she wants
to and I am sure you wouldn't take that away from her. And with
or without a veil I am sure she will beautiful.
(Answered
by Gaynor Cunningham)
A2. My suggestion to you is that you
don't want to fall out with your daughter at this late stage.
Many brides now choose not to wear a veil and her tiara sounds
very pretty. It is her day and the important thing is that she
feels relaxed and happy with what she is wearing.
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)
A3.It’s great that you are taking
such an interest in your daughter’s wedding, and that you
are considering the options for her. However, please try to
remember that it is her wedding, and sometimes girls want different
things from their mothers (I know I did!). Some dress designs
don’t suit veils, and some brides feel claustrophobic behind
veils, which make them inappropriate.
I realise that you would like her to wear a veil,
but if she has decided not to wear one, it is really not worth
‘rocking the boat’ so soon to the wedding day. You
both should be enjoying the next few days, relaxing and looking
forward to the big day! I’m sure that you want your daughter
to feel happy and confident on her big day, and if she has decided
against a veil that is her decision. Asking her to change puts
her in a very awkward position, and making her change her views
is likely to cause resentment and friction.
Whilst difficult, please try to respect your daughter’s
wishes; and I really do hope that you both have a thoroughly
enjoyable day.Very best wishes.
(Answered by Emma Pirie)
A4. It can be very difficult to please
everyone when you're planning a wedding. If my own experience
is anything to go by, what seems really important to start with,
ends up being not so important in the long run.
I think both mother and daughter need to decide what is really
important to them both and then maybe come to a compromise.
Surely that has nothing to do with what is being worn and more
to do with happiness, love and marriage.
I am sure the wedding will be perfect whether the bride is wearing
or veil or not. Have a lovely day.
(Answered by Trudy Goldsack)
