A1. I would certainly try
mentioning it to your doctor who should be understanding and
be able to recommend ways of coping with stressful situations
such as breathing exercises and coping strategies which should
help you to manage your nerves and hopefully your rash should
become less of a problem. Hypnotherapy works for a large number
of people so you could also discuss this with your doctor and
ask if they could recommend an alternative practitioner. Herbal
and aromatherapy products are also well worth a try - the bach
range of flower remedies including the very popular 'bach rescue
remedy' are well-known and well respected
(Answered
by Clare Coleman)
A2. A red rash like this is actually
quite common, so don't worry about it! The irony might be that
your worrying about it is actually making it worse! You could
go to your GP and ask if there is anything they can do or suggest
to help, and they can also check that all is ok. Your fiance's
suggestion of complimentary therapies might also work... Hypnotherapy
might help, as might other stress relieving therapies, such
as massage, reflexology, flower remedies etc. Indeed, flower
remedies (such as Bach's) might be useful on
the day. You take a few drops of the tincture on your tongue
or in water, and it helps some people with stress etc. It is
important to remember that
these therapies will work for some people and not for others.
The flip side of the coin is that your 'rash'
might have been brought on by this being 'the' or 'one of the'
first times you have seen yourself in a wedding dress. It is
a stressful time, very emotional, can make you anxious, all
of which can bring many people out in a rash!
Ultimately, remember that your fiance loves you
with or without rash! You are getting married because of your
love for each other, rather than your ability to have 'perfect'
skintone! If you are worried about how a rash might appear in
photography, they many professional photographers will be able
to digitally manipulate the image to remove any reddening, if
you ask
them to.
So you see... there are many possible solutions
to this. Please don't worry about it, and have a wonderful,
beautiful day.
(Answered
by Emma Pirie)
A3. Rest assured
this is actually quite common so don't worry. There are a few
things you could do to help or at least cover up. How about
a wrap
to wear over your shoulders during the ceremony? This is probably
the one time you'll be nervous so it would cover up the rash
and you could discard it later on when you're feeling calmer.
Make-up might be able to cover it too. Go along to a makeup
counter in a store and explain your problem and they'll be able
to suggest things to help.
Hypnotherapy could actually really help you out - it will be
able to keep you calm on the day without having to resort to
medication etc that might make you woozy or feel sleep (not
what you need on the big day!).
Also, 'Bach's Rescue Remedy' can be use at times when you feel
stressed or nervous so that could be worth a try too. For alternative
therapists
in your area, check out www.yell.com - look for those who are
members of national associations and if you decide to pursue
it, choose one who you feel comfortable with. Best of luck,
I hope you can wear the dress of your dreams!
(Answered
by Tamryn Kirby)
A4. I sympathise
totally as I suffer from the same condition. You could have
a word with your doctor and see whether he can prescribe you
some anti-histamine tablets in the weeks building up to the
wedding. The other alternative would be to try and get hold
of some make-up which has a green tint, this will counteract
the redness. As much as you think you may need it, steer clear
from the glasses of champagne on the morning of the wedding,
as this is another trigger. You could try some of the Bach Flower
Remedies, rescue remedy is great for calming the nerves.
I do remember my wedding and was worried about
exactly the same thing, funnily enough it didn't flare up at
all, so you never know. Go to your wedding with the attitude
that you are going to marry the man you love in front of lots
of people who love you and there is nothing to be nervous of.
Mind over matter may be the answer.
If the worst comes to the worst and the
redness does appear, try not to get too upset about it. By that
point there won't be much you can do and I feel sure that you
will be the only one aware of it and if anybody does notice,
they will just see you as a beautiful blushing bride.
(Answered
by Tracey Ellis)
A5. I
myself suffer from the nervous rash! There is no cure unless
you plaster yourself with make up. However please don't let
it worry you, trust me on
the day it will not even enter your mind! It is a part of you.
All my family know of my rash (which comes after drinking alcohol,
nervousness and
unfortunately for me when I tell lies), they find it endearing
and know when
I'm telling a porky!
It did occur during our ceremony but after the
reception drinks it disappeared. When I look back at my photos
it stands out more in the colour
photos than it does in the black and white, So if you can pin
point when you are more likely to be nervous, inform your photographer
to use black and white film.
But in both pictures I am happily unaware of the
rash, and I wouldn't change it if I could because it is a unique
part of us! Hope this helps you
(Answered
by Adeline St. John)
A6. My
goodness if you go on like this you will never make it to the
wedding.
I understand your nerves – having just got married myself,
I was more than a little nervous on the day. However it seems
to me you may benefit from a visit to a herbalist or a homeopath.
There are many complimentary clinics around, and
they offer lots of relaxing remedies including Shiatsu(japanese
accupressure massage), Reiki, aromatherapy massage and of course
tinctures to help calm the nerves. Why not treat yourself to
a regular course of one or a combination of these treatments?
Maybe you need to look at what is causing this
outbreak. Perhaps you are taking on too much yourself? Perhaps
you are feeling like the wedding is getting too big or outwith
your control? Why not get family members to help out - delegate?
If this is not an option then consider employing the help of
a professional Wedding Consultant to take away the stress. You
let them know what needs doing and they go and do it, leaving
you to do the lovely bit like being the bride. Net-wedding has
a list of some of the best Consultants around, and I sure there
is one close to you.
(Answered
by Eileen Boyle )
A7. Speaking
from experience I used hypnotherapy to get rid of my own wedding
nerves, and it worked a treat, I was really calm walking the
aisle. I strongly recommend it to help overcome your fears and
enjoy your big day.
(Answered
by Toni Henningsohn)
A8. This is
quite a common problem, a lot of people when they are excited
or nervous get a red rash or blotching.
Hypnotherapy is not for everyone, I would look into it before
you decide that is the route you want to take. Also it would
need to be with someone you trust, and I would take someone
with you that is not susceptible to being hypnotised (just as
a safety precaution), that way they would be right beside you
watching what is going on and to make sure you are perfectly
safe.
There are lots of herbal remedies on the market you could try,
these will not do you any harm, remember to read the label before
purchase. If you wish to try a few to see which ones work best
for you space them out e.g. one product for a few days each
month, don't go straight from one product to the other.
Other things you could try are meditation classes or relaxation
classes.Both of these methods work in the respect that once
you gain experience in relaxing your mind and body, you will
then learn your own triggers that bring on nervous attacks,
you will then (with the correct teaching) be able to take your
mind and body straight into relaxation mode when these nervous
periods appear, or even before they appear. Find out more about
this. Remember your mind controls your body you have probably
heard the saying "mind over matter", that is what
this is all about - self control.
If you don't like any of the above then try professional make-up,
theatrical make-up, actors often get nervous but we don't see
their red rash or blotching because there are professional products
out there for this purpose. Or Try a rich coloured fake tan
- get this done professionally, as it is tricky to apply correctly.
(Answered
by Mrs S)
