Q. I have asked my brother and father to be ushers as I want to involve my brother as he is deaf, and to help with the understanding of his sign language I have therefore ask my father to accompany him. Is it ok to have my father as an usher on the wedding day or should he be by my mothers side?

A1.Traditionally, your Father should be by your Mother's side but I think on your day, everyone will understand why he's with your brother so
personally, I would say you can let this tradition go! It'll help your brother to be included in the proceedings which is more important than
what's expected.

Perhaps a nice touch would be for your brother to escort your Father to his seat alongside your Mother once all the guests are seated.

Congratulations again and I'm sure you're brother is going to be absolutely wonderful on the day.
(Answered by Tamryn Kirby)


A2.I believe that you should have your wedding your way! If your mother is happy to be on her own for a short part of the day, then all is well...I presume that we're talking about the groom's family, as otherwise the father/mother might be giving away the bride and trying to be in two places at once!!

It is so fabulous that an increasing number of weddings are relaxed and tailored around each individual couples' requirements. If you need your father to assist your brother in 'ushing' then why not... it's personal to you, so I say go for it!!

Have a fabulous day...
(Answered by Emma Pirie)

A3. I understand that you want your brother to be involved which is a lovely idea, but perhaps you should ask someone else to help him, as in my opinion I think your father should be with your mother. Keep in mind that your father will have other duties on your special day. If your father has volunteered this without you mentioning this to him I am sure it would be fine. On the other hand if you ask or have asked your father to do this, he may not want to upset you by refusing your request on your special day. Even under these circumstances I would not ask my father to be an usher.
(Answered by Allison Safadi)

A4.It is a lovely idea to have your father and brother as ushers on your wedding day. I am sure your father will be delighted to have a more active
role in the wedding. As long as you make sure that your mother is comfortable with this then go ahead!
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)