A1. What
a lovely idea taking close family away with you as well
as having a reception for everyone on your return. I think
you should send one invite out to everyone but include a
personal printed note with ones to your family, it can simply
say 'groom and myself wanted a small and intimate ceremony
and as such will have only very immediate family at our
ceremony. However, family is still very important to us
and and such we wish to hold a private wedding video screening
prior to the wedding reception, as such we would be very
honored if you can make this screening at X time and X room.
With all our love (Bride) & (Groom)
x
At the screening why not have some champagne on ice and
make a small toast prior to watching the video?
(Answered
by Bernadette Chapman)
A2.
If you only want immediate family to see your wedding video
then I would insert an additional letter to them. However
if you want ball of your guests to see your wedding video
you can put the time on your invitation when this will be
viewed - and if they wish to see it they can come at the
appropriate time.
I wouldn't worry about too many people being upset at not
attending your actual ceremony as they will understand that
this is our wish.
(Answered
by Mrs S)
A3.
I have had the privilege of helping couples just like you
put together their small intimate wedding in Scotland -
more and more couples are doing exactly what you are doing,
so you are not alone. You have exactly the right idea –
weddings are about sharing it with those closest to you.
I don’t think you need to explain why you did what
you did in a note – I think the best way to avoid
problems with it how you deal with it, in that you don’t
see a problem – make it a surprise party for all your
friends. Essentially you are eloping and there is nothing
more romantic….
As for seeing the video you could always have a separate night or indeed have 2 invites – a bit like a traditional wedding where you get day invites and evening invites – only this time one will have the earlier time on it.
Please don’t worry about what
people will think – this is your day and everyone
will be happy because you are happy. Trust me!
(Answered
by Aileen Boyle)
4. I would
certainly recommend you put a separate letter/note in with
the invitation to the family members you wish to arrive
early to watch the video. This note could also explain to
them your desire to have a small and intimate ceremony and
that you hope they understand. I am sure they will be pleased
for you and thrilled to be able to watch the video of your
special day.
(Answered
by Suzie Gillespie)
5.
would invite everyone to the reception at the same time,
have a room where you can show the video. Speak to all your
guests explaining that you only wanted a small wedding and
tell them they are very welcome to watch the video.
We did this for my daughter's wedding we had an open house
for people to view the photos and video and it was a great
opportunity for all to see the video. Everyone fully enjoyed
the day. If you explain the situation to your guests I am
sure they will fully understand.
(Answered
by Susan Wakelin)