A1.
This must be very stressful for you right now and I sympathise
totally. The first thing that you should be determined to
do is to have the day of your dreams and if that means having
your family around you, then your families will have to
bite the bullet for the day and get through it.
As far as the situation with your "dads". I am
currently working on a wedding with exactly the same scenario.
Our solution was for the bride to have both men walk her
down the aisle and both "fathers" will make speeches
at the reception. Have you talked to your birth father about
this, it is possible that he is already expecting not to
take such a big role in the ceremony due to the fact that
your step father has brought you up. Another option maybe
is to have your step father give you away but get your birth
dad to do a reading at the ceremony.
It doesn't sound as though you have spoken to either dad
yet, my advice to you would be to see if they would be happy
to meet up and talk it through. I am sure that both love
you very much and will go along with whatever makes you
happy.
Please try not to stress too much, it is still a little
way off and much can happen in the meantime. The main thing
is for you and your fiance to have the wedding that you
both want, to try and get both families on side and to involve
them all without comprimising your dreams - good luck and
remember, we are here if you need us!!
(Answered
by Tracey Ellis)