A1. This is a difficult
question but I would ask her mother as she is her parent.
Her brother would of course give her away at the wedding.
It is very nice to hear that some people still have traditional
values. I wish you every happiness in your forthcoming marriage
(Answered
by Sue Waklin)
A2. First of all congratulations
on taking the decision to marry. Personally I feel you should
ask the Mother, I think she would be honoured and proud that
you asked for her daughters hand in marriage. Good luck and
enjoy planning your wedding
.
(Answered
by Bernadette Chapman)
A3. Firstly,
congratulations on finding the person you want to propose
to!
I would suggest that you speak to her mother in the absence
of her father. I'm sure that she will be very touched that
you have undertaken such a gesture, as it doesn't happen quite
so much these days. When you speak to her mother, you could
suggest whether the mother feels it appropriate to ask the
brother, and take your lead from her. You then win on all
fronts, as you've asked the permission of her mother, and
enquired about whether the mother feels it appropriate to
speak to the brother.
I sincerely hope that your request is welcomed with open arms,
and wish you the very best of luck.
(Answered
by Emma Pirie)
A4. This
is an easy one, it would be appropriate to ask her mother,
a gesture that I am sure she would appreciate.
(Answered
by Tracey Ellis)
A4. Firstly,
congratulations on your decision to get married! Weddings
and marriage bring up all sorts of etiquette questions and
this is often the most controversial! I think that it is a
lovely tradition to obtain ‘permission’ for a
ladies hand in marriage and as you have quite rightly said,
this is usually sought from the father of your bride to be.
In this case, as he is sadly deceased, I feel that the next
person ‘in command’ would be her Mother. Her mother
has played an important role in molding your ‘bride
to be’ into who she is today, and I feel she would appreciate
this gesture very much. If you are unsure how her brother
would feel about not being asked himself, how about asking
these two important members of her family out for a meal to
ensure they are at the same time at the same place and ask
them both? This could even double up as an unofficial engagement
party! Either way, I think her family would be very touched
to know they are welcoming such a thoughtful person into their
family. Good luck!
(Answered
by Tamryn Kirby)
