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I am due to get married in a double wedding (my partners sister is the other bride to be), and so far the planning has been straightforward. However, she has daughters who are to be bridesmaids, and I have sons who are to be my pageboys. What is the tradition for getting the children ready on the morning of the wedding? She wants the boys to stay with her dad as she thinks that this is the tradition. My parents have passed away, therefore we will both be getting ready from my mother in laws house, but she insists that the pageboys should be with the groom. At the end of the day it should be what I am happy with, but I dont want to cause any conflict. I thought that the children would get ready with the bride and travel with them.

Please could you let me know you views on the tradition for the moring of a wedding.

A1. Traditionally, it is true that the ushers and page boys should get ready with the groom. It is however your wedding day and therefore you should be able to have your children near you if this is what you want. If you explain to your partners sister how important it is for you to have your children around you as you get ready then Im sure she will understand. Hope this helps.
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)

A2. Traditionally page boys are part of the bridal party and follow the bride down the aisle, as a result they tend to get dressed and travel with the bride and bridesmaids. This will also be nicer for you to have your children with you to join in your excitement in the build up to the wedding.
(Answered by Pippa Miln)

A3. We appreciate that this is a difficult one for you to tackle. Traditions among brides today is that the Bride and bridesmaids all get ready together. Bridesmaids are there to assist the Bride getting ready.

There are no hard and fast rules and the Bride, bridesmaids and page boys can get ready in the same house. Children are an important part of your day. But be careful not to have to many people around you when you are getting ready. This could leave you feeling stressed.

We say to many brides, tradition doesn't always count, you can be different and you can do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Best wishes for your special day
(Answered by Adeline St-John)