I am due to get married in a double
wedding (my partners sister is the other bride to be), and so
far the planning has been straightforward. However, she has daughters
who are to be bridesmaids, and I have sons who are to be my pageboys.
What is the tradition for getting the children ready on the morning
of the wedding? She wants the boys to stay with her dad as she
thinks that this is the tradition. My parents have passed away,
therefore we will both be getting ready from my mother in laws
house, but she insists that the pageboys should be with the groom.
At the end of the day it should be what I am happy with, but I
dont want to cause any conflict. I thought that the children would
get ready with the bride and travel with them.
Please could you let me know you views on the
tradition for the moring of a wedding.
A1. Traditionally, it is true that the ushers and page boys should
get ready with the groom. It is however your wedding day and therefore
you should be able to have your children near you if this is what
you want. If you explain to your partners sister how important
it is for you to have your children around you as you get ready
then Im sure she will understand. Hope this helps.
(Answered
by Suzie Gillespie)
A2. Traditionally page boys are part of the
bridal party and follow the bride down the aisle, as a result
they tend to get dressed and travel with the bride and bridesmaids.
This will also be nicer for you to have your children with you
to join in your excitement in the build up to the wedding.
(Answered
by Pippa Miln)
A3. We appreciate that this is a difficult
one for you to tackle. Traditions among brides today is that the
Bride and bridesmaids all get ready together. Bridesmaids are
there to assist the Bride getting ready.
There are no hard and fast rules and the Bride, bridesmaids and
page boys can get ready in the same house. Children are an important
part of your day. But be careful not to have to many people around
you when you are getting ready. This could leave you feeling stressed.
We say to many brides, tradition doesn't always count, you can
be different and you can do whatever you feel comfortable with.
Best wishes for your special day
(Answered
by Adeline St-John)
