Who usually pays for the ushers suits? I have been told that these days it is more fashionable that the ushers pay, is this true? The suit hire has cost £65.00 we have paid half for all concerned, but I have one usher who thinks we should pay for all the hire as we have asked him to be involved, maybe he doesn't see it as a honour. What advice can you give me???


Traditionally, the groom pays for the cost of the men's formal dress, although it is true that more and more today the costs are borne by those in the wedding party. It's a situation where you both have a point, tradition being on his side and fashion on yours. If he feels that it's not a cost he can or should bear, then it's not worth falling out about - perhaps you could explian that you can't afford to pay for everybodies suit, but if he feels strongly about it you're happy to pay for his. You may find that he changes his mind and offers to pay for the whole hire, once he no longer feels that he's being asked to pay for something he doesn't think he should.