Q. My partner has been asked to be an Usher at two weddings - one this year and one next spring. He has accepted to do this, but wants to make sure that he does it properly for both friends. What are his main roles - both on the day and in the run up to the weddings? Are there any good books that he might buy to use as checklists?

A1. The main role and responsibility for an Usher at a wedding is to ensure everyone knows where they are going and is available to give help to guests on the day if needed. A simple checklist comprises:-

1. To hand out Service Sheets to the guests on arrival to the church/venue and help them to their seats.
2. Help the Best Man organise lifts for the guests to the reception
3. Pay special attention to the needs of the Brides Mother and Grooms Parents and escort them to their seats for the ceremony.

If your partner ensures he follows the above, he will certainly do both his friends proud.

(Answered by Sam Booth)



A2..Your partners main role as an usher are as follows:

IN THE RUN UP:
Assist the bestman with the organisation of the all important stag night
Be available for suit hire fittings

ON THE DAY
Ensure you arrive at the church/venue well the before the guests
Greet guests as they arrive and hand out 'Order of Service'
Assist with seating guests in the appropriate places
Assist moving guests from the Church to the reception
Look after the bridesmaids
During the dancing make sure the bridesmaids/mothers etc have someone to
dance with

At the reception, the best man really takes over and the ushers should be able to relax!
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)