Q. Does the mother of the bride get to chose the colour she is wearing on the special day, and if so is it the job of the mother of the groom not to clash. Problem is they both seem to want to wear the same colour and its creating stress!!

A1.I think people get too caught up with what is right and what is wrong and it really does detract from why you are all there in the first place.

I don’t think it matters if the mothers are wearing the same colour, after all bridesmaids are usually in the same colour…. Both mothers will bring their own individual style and interpretation to the colour and probably both end up looking fabulous. So don’t worry…
Hope this helps……
(Answered by Aileen Boyle)


A2. Traditionally the brides Mother would choose first and inform the grooms Mother in order for them not to clash. This also makes it easier on the day for guests to distinguish one from the other. If they are both insistent on wearing the same colour then the only other option would be for them to have different colour accessories.
(Answered by Bernadette Chapman)


A3.What a stressful situation to find yourself! Tradition dictates that it is indeed the mother of the bride who chooses her outfit first and it is the grooms mothers job to then choose something to compliment this. It is not unusual for both mothers to wear similar colours but usually when the mother of the bride is OK with this!

It is a difficult situation, but if your fiances mother is very unhappy with this prospect, then it really is for your mother to choose an alternative.
(Answered by Suzie Gillespie)

A4. I think the key here is compromise, there are no set rules I’m aware of about who chooses their outfit and colours first. There is so much choice available with many shops specialising in such outfits I’m sure they will both find something fabulous. Perhaps treat them to a day with a image and style consultant who will help them choose the best colours to suit their skins tones and style, one we recommend is www.houseofcolour.co.uk they have consultants covering the whole of the UK. Or why not suggest they try a personal shopper, most good clothing stores offer this service now, they have a trained eye for styles and colours that work well together, either way if you let them know how much they are adding unnecessary stress to an already tense situation I’m sure they will come around. .
(Answered by Lisa Burton)